The meaning of reciprocity….
We all want the people that we come across in life, especially our family, friends, work colleagues, and of course our ‘soulmate’ to know and understand the meaning of “reciprocity”….and more importantly to practice it!

This complicated word describes a great and effective approach to our relationship with the world and those who we encounter along the way. But is it really that complicated?

According to the ancient philosopher Confucius, reciprocity signifies “mutuality, interchange, duality, interdependence.” Derived from Latin, “reciprocus” has the connotation of altruism, making a sacrifice, alternation.

Or put very simply…. it is the art of give and take. Life becomes unbalanced when we do more giving and others do more taking.

The art of reciprocity is extremely powerful
Never doubt how powerful the art of reciprocity is and how by not adopting its principals it can adversely impact on your relationships. It is often said that what ‘goes round, comes around’ and the basis of this saying can be found in the law of reciprocity.

So ask yourself, what are you prepared to offer your ‘soulmate’ or to other people around you? How far are you ready to stretch yourself in order to reach out to these people? What do you ask for as compensation or as thanks in return?

Our reciprocity needs
It is obvious from the experiences that we have in life that, consciously or subconsciously, having given to another human being, especially if you regard that person as your ‘soulmate’, we anticipate a favour in return for when we need it. Disputing whether this is right or wrong would be fruitless, as for most people and in most circumstances, other than charitable giving, and help or support for the needy, reciprocity is something we have inherently come to expect. That said it is also about balancing our reciprocity expectations and questioning whether or not they are realistic.

True and genuine people
A true and genuine person is open to the world and cherishes their relationships. Gracious, giving and protective of their own families, friends and lovers, but yes the flip side is that they expect the same from others……in the form of reciprocity…. and when it comes to ‘soulmate’ love reciprocity under these circumstances is not unreasonable.

Playing by the reciprocity rules
Reciprocity could be described as “playing by the rules”, allowing for “fair game”, and in an ideal world should form part of your ‘soulmate’ relationship guiding principles”…

– Meet me halfway, as I am there waiting for you
– Nurture our relationship, as what we reap ….we shall sow
– Be insightful and considerate, as I am to you
– Aspire with me and our shared dreams will come true faster
– Cheer for me and we will double our victories
– Rejoice with me and our celebrations will multiply
– Live, achieve and prosper with me
– The objectives become closer when we walked and love together
– Hold my hand as firmly as I am holding yours
– Reciprocate to me, as I have pledged my reciprocity to you

Key to ‘soulmate’ love
Reciprocity is the key to ‘soulmate’ love………..but remember that it is always better to give than to receive…..and also at the end of the day a real, true, genuine life lasting ‘soulmate’ relationship is all about ‘balance’ as well as reciprocity.

Are you in a reciprocal relationship?
The main character Tillie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology, experiences both aspects of reciprocity, one lover gives, whilst the other lover takes. You can read her story in “Soulmate”, which gets into the mind of Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to find her “Soulmate” and all that this teaches her. Lessons on reciprocity, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?