Love sleep
Rested – Ready to manage your relationship?

When we mention sleep in a relationship the true meaning of sleep is often the last thing on our mind! Apparently it is a little known secret that sleep is critical, not just for beauty rest, but for plenty of health reasons, including ensuring that we have healthy personal relationships.

Take time to reflect
Sadly outside of the space of personal relationships it has become acceptable and even encouraged in business today to ‘stay busy’. When we disrupt our natural sleep cycles in favour of ‘getting more done,’ we actually become less effective. Typically, because we don’t take time to reflect on what is purposeful and important to us, such as our personal relationships, we often find ourselves doing things that are not really relevant to our own aims, goals and desires

Are some of you thinking, ‘what aims, goals and desires?’ There are an awful lot of people our there that have lost sight of what is truly important to them.

To-do lists good or bad?
As a writer I advocate ‘to-do list’ but I don’t advocate becoming addicted to them! For many they have become addicted to ‘to-do’ lists without holding a clear endgame goal in mind. This is energetically inefficient and physically draining. Often there is typically no passion in the relationship and thus it becomes no more than hard work instead of enjoyable. Issues also take much longer to address, when we are not focused.

De-valuing self-nurturance
Also, when the first flush of love and lust has gone from a relationship we tend to de-value self-nurturance, play, and creative relaxing pursuits, many people feel guilty or invalidated by those around them, when they attempt to live with more work vs. life balance.

Be courageous – create space
It takes courage and vision to create space in your life, so that you can stay healthy in spirit, mind and body. It takes courage to listen to your heart above the noise of the many distractions vying for your attention and money. It takes courage to work at building a relationship. And it will take courage and focused attention to slow down in the evening, early enough to get your mind and body prepared to go to sleep at a decent hour. On average, it is aid that we need at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep a night.

What are the benefits of sleep?
1. Improved memory: sleep helps to integrate learning and feelings. Greater focus and concentration improves with a good night’s sleep.

2. Stress reduction: sleep restores the body and mind and helps to balance well-being. When we are too stressed, it may be more difficult to sleep at night and this can become a vicious cycle. When we don’t get enough sleep, it makes it more difficult to deal with stress…..and let’s face it relationships can be stressful.

3. Bodily healing and rejuvenation: sleep reduces inflammation in the body. Chronic inflammation is associated with heart attack, stroke, premature aging, diabetes and arthritis

Don’t be short-sighted
Life is not a sprint, it is a long-distance journey. It is short-sighted to abuse your mind and body, as in the long run. Stress and lack of sleep not only makes you less productive, and less enjoyable to be around, it can accelerate the aging process and even contribute to other diseases. Be wise. Be courageous. Take good care of yourself and expand the vision for your life – with purpose.

Manage your time and relationships better
Sleep is not a luxury; is a means of rejuvenating your mind and body in readiness for the trials and tribulations that all relationships bring. So make sure that you get enough rest and relaxation time in order to be able to tackle any hurdles that you may face; to make your relationship stronger!

Too much lust and not enough sleep
The two main characters, Tillie and Robbie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology, had plenty of love, far too much lust and not enough sleep in their relationship as they worked hard to build their careers. Find out what happened to them; follow these two lovers as Tillie details the highs and lows of life and all that this taught them. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?