Be Brilliant
Clear a path by walking it, boldly……
Most of the time we don’t know or recognise just brilliant we are! We might often hear ourselves saying “I am ready to do this” …when in fact we really are! We are more attuned to the ways we aren’t qualified than to the ways that we are. We are waiting for someone to validate, promote or discover us. It is time to step up, and be brilliant …..

Here are key principles for developing and owning your brilliance and bringing it to the world………to your soulmate…..

Question the voice that says “I’m not ready yet.”
Because you are so brilliant and have such high standards, you see every way that you could be more qualified a better soulmate. You notice every part of your idea that is not perfected yet. While you are waiting to be ready, gathering more experience, sitting on your ideas, your friends and colleagues are being anointed industry visionaries, getting salary increases, and seeing their ideas come into life within their world. They are no more brilliant or ready than you, and perhaps less so. Make the leap…now, and find out just how ready you really are.

Make a commitment to yourself
Let’s face it no one else can live your life for you. No one else is going to build the life you want for you. So make a commitment to yourself to be in it for the long haul; commit to act as your own driver and supportive friend…. every step along the way. Once you have made this commitment you will be amazed at just how many good friends and good souls will show up along the way to help you; but always remember this is your life, your game, your party so live it as you have committed to.

Visualise it
There is a reason why sports coaches ask athletes to visualise winning and that is because it works! So what is the most wonderful career or relationship that seems so incredible to you? What is the dream you don’t allow yourself to even consider dreaming because it seems so unrealistic, frivolous, or unattainable? Start envisioning it…… now…… today. The sooner you start to focus on what you really want the quicker change in your life will happen. Visualisation is the beginning of turning your commitments and your dreams into reality.

Introduce more ‘wow factors’
Start doing things that make you say ‘wow’. Do things that ensure that your adrenalin flows regularly through your body. Ask yourself, “What is the ‘wow factor’ action in this?” Be warned though, because yes there maybe times when your inner voice may throw up doubt or when your fears raise their ugly head. Having an inner critic is normal, this inner voice is just trying to protect you from any form of risk-taking, but risk taking is important. Go for the ‘wow factor’ and accept your inner critic’s narrative for what it really is, and know just how conquerable your fears really are.

Get a thick skin
Two things happen when you take risks. Sometimes you will receive a standing ovation, and sometimes, people will throw tomatoes at you! There is probably not any one successful leader, innovator or person whom you admire who doesn’t have enthusiastic fans and harsh critics. So get used to wins and losses, praise and pans, getting a call back or being ignored. Work on letting go of needing to be liked and loved or needing to be universally known as “a nice person”, because no matter how hard we try not ‘everybody’ in this world is going to like us!

Don’t wait for your Oscar
Don’t wait to be praised, anointed by some saviour, or validated by our friends, colleagues or even your soulmate. Don’t wait for someone to give you permission to lead. Don’t wait for someone to invite you to share your voice. No one is going to discover you. (Well, actually, they will, but paradoxically, only after you have started boldly and consistently stepping into leadership, sharing your voice, and doing things that scare the hell out of you and make an impression on others!)

Filter advice
Most brilliant people are humble and open to guidance. You no doubt want to gather feedback and advice. Fine, but recognize that some people will want to do with your idea only what is interesting or helpful to them. So interpret feedback carefully. Test advice and evaluate the results, rather than following it wholesale.

Recover and restore
If you start doing the things that produce a ‘wow factor’, doing what you don’t quite feel ready to do, you are going to be stretching out of our comfort zone quite a lot. Regularly doing things that feel safe, nice and cosy is not going to develop you as a person. Acknowledge the steps you have taken along the way. Watch your energy levels to see how much risk-taking juice you have available to you in your energy tank. When it’s running low, stop, recover and restore.

Tell people how brilliant they are
Let your friends, colleagues and equally important your soulmate know what kind of brilliance you see in them, and why it is so special. Let them know that they are ready to be your friend, colleague or soulmate. Watch out for that subtle, probably unconscious negative thoughts; watch out for thinking this will “take” too much time or be too restricting, when the truth is it always has huge, often unexpected returns.

Does brilliance bring you love?
The two main characters, Tillie and Robbie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heart-warming tale of love, lust and psychology, had plenty of love and respect for one another….he thought she was ‘brilliant’ and she adored him and thought that he was the cleverest man she had ever met…..But was this enough? Find out what happened to them; follow these two lovers as Tillie details the highs and lows of life and all that this taught them. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

Love sleep
Rested – Ready to manage your relationship?

When we mention sleep in a relationship the true meaning of sleep is often the last thing on our mind! Apparently it is a little known secret that sleep is critical, not just for beauty rest, but for plenty of health reasons, including ensuring that we have healthy personal relationships.

Take time to reflect
Sadly outside of the space of personal relationships it has become acceptable and even encouraged in business today to ‘stay busy’. When we disrupt our natural sleep cycles in favour of ‘getting more done,’ we actually become less effective. Typically, because we don’t take time to reflect on what is purposeful and important to us, such as our personal relationships, we often find ourselves doing things that are not really relevant to our own aims, goals and desires

Are some of you thinking, ‘what aims, goals and desires?’ There are an awful lot of people our there that have lost sight of what is truly important to them.

To-do lists good or bad?
As a writer I advocate ‘to-do list’ but I don’t advocate becoming addicted to them! For many they have become addicted to ‘to-do’ lists without holding a clear endgame goal in mind. This is energetically inefficient and physically draining. Often there is typically no passion in the relationship and thus it becomes no more than hard work instead of enjoyable. Issues also take much longer to address, when we are not focused.

De-valuing self-nurturance
Also, when the first flush of love and lust has gone from a relationship we tend to de-value self-nurturance, play, and creative relaxing pursuits, many people feel guilty or invalidated by those around them, when they attempt to live with more work vs. life balance.

Be courageous – create space
It takes courage and vision to create space in your life, so that you can stay healthy in spirit, mind and body. It takes courage to listen to your heart above the noise of the many distractions vying for your attention and money. It takes courage to work at building a relationship. And it will take courage and focused attention to slow down in the evening, early enough to get your mind and body prepared to go to sleep at a decent hour. On average, it is aid that we need at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep a night.

What are the benefits of sleep?
1. Improved memory: sleep helps to integrate learning and feelings. Greater focus and concentration improves with a good night’s sleep.

2. Stress reduction: sleep restores the body and mind and helps to balance well-being. When we are too stressed, it may be more difficult to sleep at night and this can become a vicious cycle. When we don’t get enough sleep, it makes it more difficult to deal with stress…..and let’s face it relationships can be stressful.

3. Bodily healing and rejuvenation: sleep reduces inflammation in the body. Chronic inflammation is associated with heart attack, stroke, premature aging, diabetes and arthritis

Don’t be short-sighted
Life is not a sprint, it is a long-distance journey. It is short-sighted to abuse your mind and body, as in the long run. Stress and lack of sleep not only makes you less productive, and less enjoyable to be around, it can accelerate the aging process and even contribute to other diseases. Be wise. Be courageous. Take good care of yourself and expand the vision for your life – with purpose.

Manage your time and relationships better
Sleep is not a luxury; is a means of rejuvenating your mind and body in readiness for the trials and tribulations that all relationships bring. So make sure that you get enough rest and relaxation time in order to be able to tackle any hurdles that you may face; to make your relationship stronger!

Too much lust and not enough sleep
The two main characters, Tillie and Robbie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology, had plenty of love, far too much lust and not enough sleep in their relationship as they worked hard to build their careers. Find out what happened to them; follow these two lovers as Tillie details the highs and lows of life and all that this taught them. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

Are you an emotional decision maker?
All of us make decisions – everyday, whether at home, work, just socializing or in our love life. Decisions of the heart; we are always told to make decisions based on fact. They call this informed decision making. But is it the right way to make decisions of the heart? Mastering the art of decision making is indeed a key skill to master.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP tells us that there are primarily four types of people:
• Kinaesthetic
• Visual
• Auditory
• Auditory Visual

The name Neuro-Linguistic Programming was invented in the early 1970’s as an attempt to describe in a succinct manner the scope of this extensive body of insights and skills:
Neuro refers to how the mind and body interact
Linguistic refers to the insights into a person’s thinking that can be obtained by careful attention to their use of language
Programming refers, not to the activity of programming, but to the study of the thinking and behavioural patterns or ‘programmes’ which people use in their daily lives.

Dependant on what NLP category you are likely, (not always) but more often likely to make decisions based on:
• What you feel and sense and can physically touch
• What you can see
• What you can hear
• What details, facts and figures there are to help support your decision

The first two categories have strong ‘emotional needs’. Clearly the latter category makes decisions on less ‘emotion’.

Although neuroscience has built a strong body of evidence over the years to demonstrate the inextricable link between reason, emotion and decision-making most of mainstream culture is still not on board with it.

There are some that still believe that women, especially, wear the mantle of “emotionality” and that these women still feel the need to compensate by subduing the expression of their feelings and thoughts. This surely cannot be healthy. There is nothing wrong in expressing a touch of emotion.

Although neuroscience has built a strong body of evidence over twenty-five years to demonstrate the inextricable link between reason, emotion and decision-making most of mainstream culture still doesn’t get it.

Reason over emotion
Mainstream thinking about reason over emotion is generally based on two assumptions:
1. That we have a “choice” whether to feel or not
2. That emotional “suppression” works.

The brain does make decisions based on feeling

Research has found that there can be significant consequences when you try to push away thoughts and feelings; a ‘rebound’ effect. Simply put, these strategies often backfire and result in an increase of the intensity of the thoughts and emotions that are being suppressed.

In the book: “How we decide” by Jonah Lehrer; it the case that rationality depends on emotion. Motivation is driven by feeling, not intellect. Lehrer points out, “Emotion and motivation share the same Latin root, movere, which means to move. The world is full of things and it is our feelings that help us choose among them.”

Avoiding analysis-paralysis
Many of us try to rule out the emotional side of decision-making only to find we become stuck in so-called analysis-paralysis. We often avoid making decisions or make them hastily because we want to skip the feeling part, not only unavoidable, it’s short-sighted.

There continues to be a protracted controversy over reason and intuition, which is another version of the ancient reason over emotion battle. Lehrer makes the critical point that our emotional brains are deeply empirical and that every time you make a mistake or encounter something new, your brain cells are busy changing themselves. Emotions are profoundly smart and constantly learning, they are not simply animal instincts that must be tamed.

Balancing 7 + 2
What is known as the “7 plus or minus 2” rule is based on the research that short-term memory capacity varies from being able to hold between 4 and 9 bits of information at one time. When faced with too many variables, the brain simply makes the wrong decision because its resources are overburdened.

The Chunking Principle:
• Chunking is a principle that applies to the effective communication of information between human beings.
• It is particularly useful in the domain of written communication.
• It was first put forward in the 1950s by George A. Miller.
• Miller studied the short term memory.

In 1952, George A. Miller published a paper titled:
“The Magical Number Seven; Plus or Minus Two”
Today chunking is a term used in NLP to describe the process of grouping items into larger or smaller groups (or “chunks”) Chunking helps you to organise your thinking in order to better handle information and make decisions. So you need to make sure that you can optimize your decision-making process but not taking on too much.

Left and right brains
You have to build capacity in both your left and right brains; in other words the rational and the emotional. They are magically interlinked to ensure that we maximize the understanding of the world around us and the world within ourselves.

Decisions of the heart….
And remember……. Emotions and feelings are not a luxury; they are a means of communicating our states of mind to others. But they are also a way of guiding our own judgments and decisions. Emotions bring the body into the loop of reason. So if you make decisions of the heart, ‘with emotion’ then be sure to give yourself a pat on the back!

Are you making decisions of the heart in your relationship?
The main character Tillie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology, made to when she fell in love with Robbie. She had to decide whether or not he was her “Soulmate. Was Robbie her one true “Soulmate”?……Follow Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to decide who her “Soulmate” really is and all that this taught her. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

knowledge love
How well do you know the people around you….your soulmate…….
It is said…..
– That we are all masters of our own destiny
– That love is blind
– That beauty is only skin deep
Don’t be blinded by your lack of everyday knowledge of them and life; show your true beauty by expanding your knowledge, and by doing so make yourself more interesting…..more attractive!

Knowledge is an acquired quality
How many times in your life have you regretted that you did not know enough, have not read more to show your intelligence and enhance your image and confidence in a conversation or situation with your hearts desire? It happens to the best of us; however how many of us become determined to educate ourselves, to be wittier, better informed, and faster thinking.

Knowledge is an acquired quality – it is not inborn.

You choose
The choice to be educated or not, to be on top of things, is always ours to create and make. Some people make it earlier, some make it later, and sadly some don’t make it at all. Yet, let us be honest about it and admit it, if only to ourselves, there is no better reason for self-content and pride, than the feeling that you can carry on an interesting or important conversation, operate and utilise the facts, understand your soulmate, and stand steadfast on your own.

The beauty of knowledge
Intelligence is a chosen path for those who appreciate the importance and beauty of this personal skill. It becomes a part of who you are, the image you project to the world, an inalienable ingredient of your own self-perception. Obtaining knowledge is a matter of choice and, in fact, a simple thing to acquire, when you have made your decision to acquire it, committed to it and, once commenced, you never abandon the process.

Here are some simple steps to you get started:

Tip 1: Have a relationship ‘vision’ and stay focused
Whatever relationship situation you are in have a ‘vision’ as to what you personally want to achieve from it and equally important stay focussed on that vision. Take in and absorb all the information and process it. Try to analyse it yourself and make your own decisions. When talking on a subject, do not lose the topic; rather, stay on it until you have finished or the discussion is over, or at the very least agreed an outcome. This will help you to consolidate your thoughts and allow your soulmate to come up with any comments or arguments unencumbered.

A focused mind is able to expand and store new information more effectively.

Tip 2: Be mentally active
Have the brightest mind. People like people with bright minds. This is a matter of personal choice, whether you are an avid stamp collector; love reading or are a film buff, train and exercise your brain, every day. Remember the smallest details of a conversation or task and analyse the ideas, complexity and outcomes.

Tip 3: Stimulate your brain
Load your mind with analysis and decision-making even in simple everyday situations. Take an unusual task to resolve, stay on it, and celebrate the results that will follow. The satisfaction you will experience will be very rewarding. Our mind needs a constant challenge to stay on top of the game. The routines we are accustomed to at work do not do the job. Challenge your brain with cross words, puzzles and games, like Sudoku or chess, etc.

Tip 4: Get trained, get a coach or a mentor
There comes a time in everybody’s development when they need support to improve their knowledge. This is perfectly normally and when that time arrives should not be ignored, as this is the time when many people reach their peak and will not develop further without training or the wise advice and support of a coach or mentor. Everybody, not matter what level they are in their world needs a mentor.

If this is you….seek training and support now!

Tip 5: Be your own master – make your own decisions
There is nothing wrong with seeking an advice. But doing it on a regular basis might be damaging for your mind, self-growth, and ability to make your own decisions based on your own analysis. Face the challenge by yourself and only after the decision has been made, bring it to the table for a discussion…… if you want to. Stand by your decision and defend your point of view. Even if you lost and opted for another solution, you have just acquired a priceless experience and your brain has gone through a very good and useful exercise.

Tip 6: Read, read and read
If you are reading this blog then well done! Stay informed on the latest happenings in the world, expand your vocabulary, stimulate your brain with the masterpieces of world literature, enrich your erudition, and put it to use whenever you have an opportunity. Reading good books is a rewarding way to expand your knowledge, boost your intelligence and please your heart and soul. Good books stay with you forever, and once in a while, as you go through life, you return to them. And guess what – it is amazing how your perception changes as you read the old book anew! You know why? Because you have changed, and the ways you perceive and analyse information will have been modified as well.

Positive outcomes
Last but not least. Obtaining greater knowledge helps you enjoy your times with yourself. Consequently, it boosts your self-esteem and you acquire a great new relationship partner …. your improved knowledgeable self. And what can be better than being content with who you are, the way you…….a more intelligent you!

Are you in a intelligent relationship?
The main character Tillie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology, fell in love with Robbie primarily because of his intelligence…..But was intelligence enough to make their love last………was Robbie her one true “Soulmate”?……Follow Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to find her “Soulmate” and all that this taught her. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

The meaning of reciprocity….
We all want the people that we come across in life, especially our family, friends, work colleagues, and of course our ‘soulmate’ to know and understand the meaning of “reciprocity”….and more importantly to practice it!

This complicated word describes a great and effective approach to our relationship with the world and those who we encounter along the way. But is it really that complicated?

According to the ancient philosopher Confucius, reciprocity signifies “mutuality, interchange, duality, interdependence.” Derived from Latin, “reciprocus” has the connotation of altruism, making a sacrifice, alternation.

Or put very simply…. it is the art of give and take. Life becomes unbalanced when we do more giving and others do more taking.

The art of reciprocity is extremely powerful
Never doubt how powerful the art of reciprocity is and how by not adopting its principals it can adversely impact on your relationships. It is often said that what ‘goes round, comes around’ and the basis of this saying can be found in the law of reciprocity.

So ask yourself, what are you prepared to offer your ‘soulmate’ or to other people around you? How far are you ready to stretch yourself in order to reach out to these people? What do you ask for as compensation or as thanks in return?

Our reciprocity needs
It is obvious from the experiences that we have in life that, consciously or subconsciously, having given to another human being, especially if you regard that person as your ‘soulmate’, we anticipate a favour in return for when we need it. Disputing whether this is right or wrong would be fruitless, as for most people and in most circumstances, other than charitable giving, and help or support for the needy, reciprocity is something we have inherently come to expect. That said it is also about balancing our reciprocity expectations and questioning whether or not they are realistic.

True and genuine people
A true and genuine person is open to the world and cherishes their relationships. Gracious, giving and protective of their own families, friends and lovers, but yes the flip side is that they expect the same from others……in the form of reciprocity…. and when it comes to ‘soulmate’ love reciprocity under these circumstances is not unreasonable.

Playing by the reciprocity rules
Reciprocity could be described as “playing by the rules”, allowing for “fair game”, and in an ideal world should form part of your ‘soulmate’ relationship guiding principles”…

– Meet me halfway, as I am there waiting for you
– Nurture our relationship, as what we reap ….we shall sow
– Be insightful and considerate, as I am to you
– Aspire with me and our shared dreams will come true faster
– Cheer for me and we will double our victories
– Rejoice with me and our celebrations will multiply
– Live, achieve and prosper with me
– The objectives become closer when we walked and love together
– Hold my hand as firmly as I am holding yours
– Reciprocate to me, as I have pledged my reciprocity to you

Key to ‘soulmate’ love
Reciprocity is the key to ‘soulmate’ love………..but remember that it is always better to give than to receive…..and also at the end of the day a real, true, genuine life lasting ‘soulmate’ relationship is all about ‘balance’ as well as reciprocity.

Are you in a reciprocal relationship?
The main character Tillie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology, experiences both aspects of reciprocity, one lover gives, whilst the other lover takes. You can read her story in “Soulmate”, which gets into the mind of Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to find her “Soulmate” and all that this teaches her. Lessons on reciprocity, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

Unconditional Love
Are you searching for unconditional love…..

There are five key principles to live by that can really help you unlock the key to finding unconditional soulmate love.

1. Make a fresh start – get the monkey off your back!
The first thing to remember when unlocking unconditional soulmate love in that your past does not equal your future. Just because you have not found love or perhaps have been hurt in the past, does not mean that you will be hurt again or that unconditional soulmate love will elude you.

Imagine carrying lots of monkey with you in a bag on your back, and as you go along, you collect more and more monkeys, how do you think you will feel if you continue to carry the monkeys? Most likely pretty tired! Even worse the monkeys will eventually turn into gorillas and then what!

What if someone came along emptied your bag of monkeys, and you were able to keep walking but this time, without any monkeys to carry! How would you feel then? Most probably much lighter; well the same is true for creating a fresh start, a fresh outlook on life.

2. Ditch misguided beliefs
In order to attract unconditional soulmate love you must ditch any misguided beliefs you hold and change them. Our beliefs can either spurn us forward towards our soulmate love or hold us back. Whatever you believe is what you will attract. The key thing here is to identify what beliefs you are holding about people and question them.

For example one way to check this out is to fill in the blank, “I don’t trust people because___________” and see what you come up with. You may have just one simple answer or you may have a whole list of things as to why you don’t trust people! Either way it will be very telling as to what reasons you have as to why you don’t trust others.

If the reasons that you don’t trust other people are spurious, then you will need to change those unconscious misguided beliefs. Once you change any inappropriate beliefs, you will start attracting more people you can trust and ultimately somebody that loves and trusts you back.

3. Trust yourself – trust your gut instinct
On the theme of trust this is really the key to it all, the central core. When we say we don’t trust others, it is usually because we don’t trust ourselves. This generally happens if you have been hurt in the past and therefore find it hard to trust others, as well as your own judgement. Unfortunately if you keep up with this pattern of mistrust, it will result in you not trusting yourself to recognise when someone that is good for you comes along.

You cannot expect others to trust you if you don’t trust yourself! Not having trust in your own judgement may have come from thinking that you have been proven wrong many times in the past…..haven’t we all. If you keep distrusting yourself however you will keep going around in ever decreasing circles.

To break this cycle, write down a list of 20 to 30 good decisions that you have made in the past based on your trust – your own judgement, your gut instinct. This will allow you to see that you can indeed trust your own decision-making.

4. Have a clear vision of what you want
It sounds obvious and that is because it is, but it is important to know exactly what type of person you want to be with and more importantly to note how you want them to make you feel. Write a list of how you wish them to make you feel. By doing this you will know when you have met them. No-one ever forgets how you make them feel, which is why this is a very powerful exercise.

5. Create vision of yourself.
Once you are clear on what you want from your soulmate, create a vision for yourself. It is said that your unconscious mind can only see pictures and whatever your unconscious sees, it believes! This is why sports men and women visualize themselves crossing the finish line in first place.
Inspiring yourself is essential to overcoming distrust. You new-found belief and vision will complement your ability to attract someone you can trust. The law of attraction, in this case to attract your soulmate, will only happen if your inner world changes and when you know exactly what you are looking for.

Do you have a vision of the Soulmate you would like to find?
Find out how Tillie ditched her misguided beliefs and whether or not she found her unconditional soulmate love …….you can read her story in the novel “Soulmate”, which is about love, lust and psychology!

“Soulmate” gets into the mind of Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to find her “Soulmate” and all that this taught her. Lessons on false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love;

Soulmate sand hearts
The power of soulmate love is awesome, physical and tangible. The power of genuine soulmate love is stronger than the ocean. A true soulmate will leave an indelible footprint on your heart…….

Different disguises
Soulmates come in all types of shapes, sizes and disguises; mother, sister, father, brother, work colleague, husband, wife, partner and of course lover. We tend not to take too much notice of their unique power over us, until that is we need them to stand by us and help to make us stronger.

There can be no doubt that such love surely has to be one of the most powerful forces in life; when it works well, when we are ‘in love’, life is truly wonderful. When it goes wrong however, life becomes wretched and we can suffer the most excruciating pain both physically and mentally.

Sub-conscious mind
All of us, without exception, consciously or sub-consciously, look for our soulmate in any given situation whether at home with the family, at work or within our social circle. Yes our soulmate, the one who we can truly relate to, who will support us and help make us stronger, who will, if you like, complete us, the one we will feel truly understood by and know that this person will always be with us in one capacity or another.

Sadly the reality of life tells us that relationships of any nature can be complicated and full of both highs and lows. Often we draw people towards us to help solve an immediate problem, or heal a deep seated wound or uncontrolled fear, sometimes these types of insecurities can stem back to our childhood, or from our past life or experiences.

Sometimes especially with family, friends and work colleagues we form an unspoken ‘spiritual contract’ by sub-consciously telling ourselves that we owe this soulmate for a previous kindness or favour; to be there for them as part of our contractual payback, they did something for us, so we are repaying our debt of gratitude.

Power of our ‘soul family’
Whether we are conscious of it or not, we all create our own ‘soul family’; the people we truly feel close to and connect with. It is said that we all have a soul group of nine and one of that soul group is meant to be our true soulmate or twin; the one and only one who truly we can become whole with when we are fused together.

Remember your soulmate comes in all types of shapes, sizes and disguises; mother, sister, father, brother, work colleague, husband, wife, partner or lover. Whoever they are they are the one that supports and understands you deeply.

Sometimes the ‘twin soulmate’ are meant to teach each other or evolve through each other and this can be both joyous and painful. Sadly for some soulmates it is not their destiny to be with each other, well not in this lifetime anyway…..

Have you experienced the power of Soulmate love?
Tillie has……you can read her story in “Soulmate”, which is a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology! “Soulmate” gets into the mind of Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to find her “Soulmate” and all that this taught her. Lessons on false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

Soulmate Encounter
Soulmate or guest?
For the vast majority of our life, we are surrounded by people. Some people that we like, some we don’t like or care about so much. Some of these people are family, some are friends, some are work colleagues and some are simply just passing acquaintances.

Have you ever stopped to think why it is that some of these people come into our lives and remain for there many years, some of these people may stay forever; whilst others stay for only a short period of time, and then leave without ever looking back.

Sometimes, dependant on the relationship we have with these ‘guests’, that come into our life leave the ability to be able to make us smile when we think about them. It can also be said that for some of our ‘guests’ the opposite is true, in that they make us feel very sad, hurt or even cry. Some ‘visitors’ are just like ships that past in the night and make no impression at all and are quickly gone and forgotten.

Our very existence, coupled with our individual and unique personality is defined by our interactions with all of these people who pass by us, whether they stay long term, short term or just simply pass in and out of our life fleetingly.

The in-betweens
Whoever they are, and most probably without even realising it, they shape our character, and can make a big difference on our life’s path. It is said that we should cherish every encounter and every person in your life that we meet: family, friends or foes, lovers and acquaintances as they are there for a reason….. To make us better and propel us forward. Everybody we meet in life we meet for a reason…….all you have to do is work out what that reason is.

So be loyal to the people you meet along life’s path, see each relationship through; those who are dear to your heart, your ‘soulmates’, who might need your hand or support, whether asking for it or not. Care about your family, friends and even those casual acquaintances and help your foes, and the winds will blow to your sails!

How do you know whether or not you have met your ‘Soulmate’? Well they are the people that walk across your heart and leave an indelible positive and happy footprint there….that never goes away.

And finally above all remember that we are sent our “Soulmates” in all manner of disguises….these are the people that love and respect you for who you are, and the way you are………

Have you had your ‘Soulmate’ encounter yet?
Tillie has……find out what happened to her; you can read her story in “Soulmate”, which is a novel about love, lust and psychology!

“Soulmate” gets into the mind of Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to find her “Soulmate” and all that this taught her. Lessons on false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

Walnut Whip
Yummy, sensual chocolate…..
So Easter is over for another year and for many who have eaten their body weight in chocolate they are already in mourning for the sweet sensual sensation of chocolate! Frankly there is nothing quite like chocolate because for most chocoholics chocolate screams “eat me, eat me”…..whilst subconsciously whispering sweet promises of its rich creamy taste, soft velvety texture and power to bring a smile to your face.

Is it any wonder that chocolate has become the go to gift whether for families, friends, business or lovers, for events and conferences and for sharing with those you live and network with. Chocolate is both the body’s enemy and for some the wonder drug of the 21st century. Chocolate even contains a compound closely related to the active ingredient in marijuana! Far from being just milk, sugar and cocoa, chocolate has over 300 compounds that can boost your mood, energy and libido.

Caffeine – the most popular psychoactive drug in the world. Caffeine stimulates the nervous system by affecting two chemicals called dopamine and adenosine. By increasing dopamine it stimulates our reward system, triggering the release of pleasurable chemicals and motivating us to repeat this activity again. By making the body less sensitive to adenosine, it speeds up neural activity and triggers the release of extra energy.

Endorphins – give us that feeling of euphoria or elation as well as reducing feelings of pain and stress.

Serotonin – known as an anti-depressant, Serotonin plays a big role in regulating your mood. Tryptophan (found in chocolate) is one of the chemicals triggering the release of Serotonin.

Flavonoids (an antioxidant) – claimed to help prevent cancers, protect blood vessels, promote cardiac health, and counteract high blood pressure. The highest concentrations are found in high cocoa content chocolate and raw cacao. Raw cacao in particular has many health benefits, containing vital vitamins and minerals including magnesium, calcium, vitamins E and B and essential healthy fats (oleic acid).

Phenylethylamine or PEA – promotes feelings of attraction, excitement and nervousness. PEA is also created in the brain and released when we are in love so it’s no wonder that chocolate has become synonymous with romance and being the way to a woman’s heart.

The sweet, sensual sensation of chocolate plays a part in “Soulmate” when the main character, Tillie shares a walnut whip with her lover. So at the end of the day chocolate, we’ve ended up at one of life’s biggest lessons; happiness is not so much in having as sharing, whether it’s with family, friends, or lovers; as Tillie discovered when she shared her walnut whip with her lover! We may experience pleasure from what we accumulate and consume, but we make our lives meaningful by what we give. ……..

Does your Soulmate want a walnut whip? Tilly’s soulmate wanted a walnut whip! Find out where and when by reading her story in “Soulmate”, a novel about love, lust and psychology!

“Soulmate” gets into the mind of Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to find her “Soulmate” and all that this taught her. Lessons on false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

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Are you ready to attract your soulmate love?
There are a few key steps that you can take to attract your soulmate love:

Step 1 – Love yourself
Before you can embark on finding romance or even real love, your “soulmate”, you must remember your own true origin and identity; you must do this no matter what negative thoughts and messages you received throughout your life. Finding your “soulmate” is about believing in your own self worth and value.

Remember that actions speak louder than words. So start thinking about how you are going to increase your feeling of self worth, by taking small steps to demonstrate how you love, care and respect yourself: Respect your body, enjoy eating healthy food, and most definitely say no to any drains on your time, emotions and energy, buy yourself a chocolate treat or flowers, pamper yourself with a spa day, and just like the main character, Tillie, in my novel “Soulmate” write a journal; don’t of course forget to smile more.

As you reclaim your true identity as a human being who is worthy of more happiness than you thought possible, your outer world will start reflecting this back to you with a smile and with relationships and situations that acknowledge, respect and support you; Although it might be hard to believe it your “soulmate” is really not that far away! This is the first step in attracting a heavenly and healthy romantic relationship.

Step 2 – Let go of your past
All the self-help books I have ever read say that you must be willing to let go and make peace with the past. When your heart carries toxic, heavy emotions, the space just isn’t there for it to overflow with love, and ultimately you are the one who suffers. So in addition to forgiving former lovers, partners, parents and even perhaps authority figures from your past, it is essential to forgive anyone you are still harbouring a grudge against, or any resentment or anger towards, especially any past romantic relationships.

As you let go of these overwhelming negative emotions you feel towards these people and replace them with a smile of kindness, forgiveness, compassion and hopefully good grace, you yourself will amazingly actually free yourself from the burden of carrying those heavy and unhappy emotions around with you like a monkey on your back. You suddenly will become more attractive to yourself and to others.

Once you have mastered the art of self-love and freed your heart from unwanted negative emotions you are now ready to attract the wonderful partner you deserve; your hearts desire …………your “Soulmate”.

Step 3 – Trust in destiny

Lastly in my novel “Soulmate” I ask …. “Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “soulmate”? Do we all go in search of our other half; the half that we believe is our “soulmate”? In order to find true love, your “soulmate” you must first trust that in truth all the love you seek is already within you, and that your “soulmate” is just one form of love that will come into your life with perfect timing when you least expect it to. Prepare yourself now. Learn from the ‘life lessons’ highlighted within my novel “Soulmate” and be ready to receive your true love when they come along……

Have you found your “Soulmate” yet?
Tillie found her soulmate love…. find out how by reading her story in “Soulmate”, a novel about love, lust, psychology and attracting soulmate love!