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Are we on the same page?
All of us will have no doubt heard or even used this saying especially when referring to our ‘soulmate’, sometimes even adding….

“What planet are they on, are they on the same page as me”

If you have ever found yourself in a conversation such as this, where you suddenly realized that your vis-à-vis and you were talking about completely different things then read on to find out why.

What are you talking about?
With our ‘soulmate’, in a casual conversation, with a loved one, at work with colleagues or even with family members, many of us wonder…. “What are you talking about?” …..

This is a clear sign of ineffective, and therefore unproductive, communication. People spend hours in lovers tiffs or arguments, debates, business meetings, phone conversations, e-mail correspondence, and yet still cannot stay on the same page, although they are positive they know exactly what they are supposed to do.

Proper definitions
Why does it happen? The answer is oh so simple…. it is all about the lack of proper definitions. Way too often, the message we receive or express is not clear or self-explanatory enough. Consequently, the message gets misinterpreted and damages the very result and efficiency of communication. People run around in circles without getting to the point in conversations short of definitions and, as a result, waste their time and energy on counterproductive actions.

Beware of ambiguity
Before you proceed with your proposal, demand, complaint, information exchange or any other form of communication, make sure you explain what you mean. Don’t let any ambiguity slip into your words. Don’t leave room for interpretation, because it may work against you.

Beware of general concepts
Whenever you resort to general concepts like “success”, “recognition”, “growth”, “appreciation” always define them in exact, specific terms; quantify them, if that’s the case. If you are unable to do this – you don’t know what you are talking about. Than how can you expect others to understand what you mean?

Goals desire and expectations
Make sure you have a clear idea of your goals, intentions, desires, and expectations before you impose them on others. This is the only way to evoke an effective and productive action that you seek. Because clarity of the core tasks, goals, and messages is the essential condition of success.

The philosophy of communication
And finally…..While some forms of art invite us to explore multiple interpretations, the art of communication is based on the premise that you speak the same language and operate the same concepts. It is about shared understanding of the topic.

Your ‘soulmate, co-workers, friends and family members don’t want to guess what you mean; they are not at the exhibit of abstract art. You absolutely don’t want ambiguity in your work or personal relationships; because it leads to misunderstanding and confusion, whereas the exact reaction is evoked by an exact message. Only clearly defined goals can be achieved. So next time you set “success” as your primary goal, make sure you specify what exactly it is for you, be as specific as possible and this will help you achieve it.

Are you a man from Mars or a women from Venus…….
Is my message clear to you?……..…I hope so!

Do you have communication issues?
In the novel “Soulmate”, a heart-warming tale of love, lust, murder mystery and psychology, there is plenty of communication issues……The story would in fact have a whole different outcome if the main characters (Tillie Anton and Robbie Hardcastle) had communicated better.

Follow their story as it details the highs and lows of life and all that theirMen from Mars and Women from Venus” communication taught them. Lessons on dealing with understanding mix messages, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?
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Male and female divas
What is the first thing that springs to mind when you hear the word ‘diva’?

In many circles a diva is widely thought as being an all female trait, however contrary to popular belief divas can be both male and female.

The word ‘diva’ is commonly associated with pop stars and celebrity icons. Nonetheless the reality is that divas exist in all walks of life.

High-maintenance narcissists
Divas, by definition, are high-performing, high-maintenance narcissists. Some are really needy, demanding, and negative. Divas talk almost incessantly about themselves. Researchers say these are ‘unhealthy divas’ and the source of their narcissism usually is low self-esteem: They are constantly trying to pump themselves up.

Divas adore the limelight
Yet, believe it or not, researchers say some divas are healthy. They adore the limelight and work hard to be always front and center, but they are willing to make room for others. They are spirited, fun and positive. Because they assume everyone around them is interested in them, they share a lot of themselves and in this way bring people together. They have the ability to help others enjoy things that aren’t normally enjoyable, whether it’s a long line at the store, an office meeting or dinner with the boss.

Healthy divas stand up for others
What separates a healthy diva from an unhealthy diva is this: Healthy divas stand up for others, not just themselves. They are confident of their abilities and contributions, and they love recognition, but they are happy to give credit to others also.

Sense of entitlement
All divas are talented and feel a sense of entitlement. They aren’t reluctant to tell their soulmate, spouse, or lover, or even work colleagues exactly what they want for their birthday or to ask for a raise.

* They deliver 150%.
* Healthy divas, though, are self-aware.
* Knowing that they are worth it.
* Their sense of privilege comes from their knowledge …
* They know that it’s important to say:
– “This is what I do well”
– “This is what I deserve”
– “This is what I expect in a relationship”

Deliberate divas

Dan Nainan, a 31-year-old comedian in New York City, says he became more assertive and inflexible a few years ago, after reading a newspaper interview with a call girl. “She said that when she charged $500, men treated her like dirt, so she upped her price to $3,000, and now men treat her like gold,” he says. “That really opened my mind.”

Divas with a purpose
Another big influence, Mr. Nainan says, was one of the rock music world’s original divas—David Lee Roth, who famously put a clause in the concert contract for the band Van Halen banning brown M&Ms backstage. (It was a safety measure, the singer has explained: If brown M&Ms appeared on the catering table, he knew the concert promoter hadn’t read the contract, which gave detailed instructions for constructing the stage set.)

Demand what you are worth
Mr. Nainan, who entertains at corporate events and weddings, now sometimes channels his inner rock star. He refuses to perform when he isn’t paid before going on stage, as his contract specifies. “If you are the talent, you need to demand what you are worth,” he says. “I am worth it.”

From humble to diva
Experts say a humble person can learn to be a healthy diva. But there’s more to it than just throwing on a power suit and some attitude. You need to project confidence through body language and speech. You may want to cultivate a presence, through your posture and personal style, and let your personality shine.

And don’t forget: You need to recognize others as well as yourself.

Does your Soulmate dare to diva?
Is your soulmate a healthy or unhealthy diva?

In the novel “Soulmate”, a heart-warming tale of love, lust, murder mystery and psychology, there are plenty of divas….Some healthy and some unhealthy. Find out what happened to the ‘Soulmates’ and the divas that tried to keep them apart. Follow their story as it details the highs and lows of life and all that this taught them. Lessons on dealing with divas, intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

https://twitter.com/SoulmateNovel

http://www.amazon.com/Soulmate-ebook/dp/B0092GV73W/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1346086973&sr=8-3&keywords=trisha+proud

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attitude is everything
Genuine Soulmates have had an attitude about them
Have you ever noticed that other people’s relationships that you admire have a uniqueness ….an ‘attitude’ about them?

They are not easily discouraged by obstacles and issues that might deter others. In fact, they don’t see them as “obstacles and issues”at all, but problems to solve and situations to work through. A real Soulmate will work and play hard to find and keep their ‘mate’; the love of their life happy, because in doing so they also are fulfilled.

In essence true Soulmates are not daunted by….

Soulmates are not daunted by failure:
Soulmates believe that if you fear failure too much and you’ll have a hard time getting past breakfast!

Soulmates are not daunted by rising before the sun does:
Show me a successful lazy entrepreneur and I’ll show you a purple horse. A true partner will work as hard as you in and outside of the relationship.

Soulmates are not daunted by hard work:
In fact they don’t think of it as “work.” Instead they think of it as an investment in you….in your joint relationship….your partnership.

Soulmates are not daunted by risk:
Too much risk is seldom good; but nothing really innovatively great is ever accomplished without some degree of risk, very often there can be quite a bit of risk to forming a great relationship.

Soulmates not daunted by ownership and responsibility:
They have no choice but to take it, Soulmates believe that if you want the rewards then they have to ‘go with the flow’ and also take ownership and responsibility.

Soulmates are not daunted by conflict:
Conflict is the currency of any relationship; you have to be able to handle it effectively or your other half, your Soulmate won’t want to follow you.

Soulmates are not daunted by what they cannot see with the naked eye:
Vision in a close relationship means looking past the horizon to opportunity invisible to others.

Soulmates are not daunted by bare forearms:
As in the kind that goes with rolled-up sleeves; to muck in and get invloved.

Soulmates are not daunted by the unknown:
Real Soulmates work at their personal relationships and are open to try new things to maintain it.

Soulmates are not daunted by admitting fault:
A true Soulmate instinctively knows that too much hubris, excessive pride or arrogance and they will have trouble in their relationship or simply being with others, which of course they need to in order to accomplish what they want and need, in order to be fulfilled themselves.

Does your relationship have ‘attitude’?
The two main characters, Tillie and Robbie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heart-warming tale of love, lust and psychology, had plenty of love and respect for one another….but there were areas in their relationship where the wrong attitude was applied. Find out what happened to them; follow these two lovers as Tillie details the highs and lows of life and all that this taught them. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

https://twitter.com/SoulmateNovel

http://www.amazon.com/Soulmate-ebook/dp/B0092GV73W/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1346086973&sr=8-3&keywords=trisha+proud

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Be Brilliant
Clear a path by walking it, boldly……
Most of the time we don’t know or recognise just brilliant we are! We might often hear ourselves saying “I am ready to do this” …when in fact we really are! We are more attuned to the ways we aren’t qualified than to the ways that we are. We are waiting for someone to validate, promote or discover us. It is time to step up, and be brilliant …..

Here are key principles for developing and owning your brilliance and bringing it to the world………to your soulmate…..

Question the voice that says “I’m not ready yet.”
Because you are so brilliant and have such high standards, you see every way that you could be more qualified a better soulmate. You notice every part of your idea that is not perfected yet. While you are waiting to be ready, gathering more experience, sitting on your ideas, your friends and colleagues are being anointed industry visionaries, getting salary increases, and seeing their ideas come into life within their world. They are no more brilliant or ready than you, and perhaps less so. Make the leap…now, and find out just how ready you really are.

Make a commitment to yourself
Let’s face it no one else can live your life for you. No one else is going to build the life you want for you. So make a commitment to yourself to be in it for the long haul; commit to act as your own driver and supportive friend…. every step along the way. Once you have made this commitment you will be amazed at just how many good friends and good souls will show up along the way to help you; but always remember this is your life, your game, your party so live it as you have committed to.

Visualise it
There is a reason why sports coaches ask athletes to visualise winning and that is because it works! So what is the most wonderful career or relationship that seems so incredible to you? What is the dream you don’t allow yourself to even consider dreaming because it seems so unrealistic, frivolous, or unattainable? Start envisioning it…… now…… today. The sooner you start to focus on what you really want the quicker change in your life will happen. Visualisation is the beginning of turning your commitments and your dreams into reality.

Introduce more ‘wow factors’
Start doing things that make you say ‘wow’. Do things that ensure that your adrenalin flows regularly through your body. Ask yourself, “What is the ‘wow factor’ action in this?” Be warned though, because yes there maybe times when your inner voice may throw up doubt or when your fears raise their ugly head. Having an inner critic is normal, this inner voice is just trying to protect you from any form of risk-taking, but risk taking is important. Go for the ‘wow factor’ and accept your inner critic’s narrative for what it really is, and know just how conquerable your fears really are.

Get a thick skin
Two things happen when you take risks. Sometimes you will receive a standing ovation, and sometimes, people will throw tomatoes at you! There is probably not any one successful leader, innovator or person whom you admire who doesn’t have enthusiastic fans and harsh critics. So get used to wins and losses, praise and pans, getting a call back or being ignored. Work on letting go of needing to be liked and loved or needing to be universally known as “a nice person”, because no matter how hard we try not ‘everybody’ in this world is going to like us!

Don’t wait for your Oscar
Don’t wait to be praised, anointed by some saviour, or validated by our friends, colleagues or even your soulmate. Don’t wait for someone to give you permission to lead. Don’t wait for someone to invite you to share your voice. No one is going to discover you. (Well, actually, they will, but paradoxically, only after you have started boldly and consistently stepping into leadership, sharing your voice, and doing things that scare the hell out of you and make an impression on others!)

Filter advice
Most brilliant people are humble and open to guidance. You no doubt want to gather feedback and advice. Fine, but recognize that some people will want to do with your idea only what is interesting or helpful to them. So interpret feedback carefully. Test advice and evaluate the results, rather than following it wholesale.

Recover and restore
If you start doing the things that produce a ‘wow factor’, doing what you don’t quite feel ready to do, you are going to be stretching out of our comfort zone quite a lot. Regularly doing things that feel safe, nice and cosy is not going to develop you as a person. Acknowledge the steps you have taken along the way. Watch your energy levels to see how much risk-taking juice you have available to you in your energy tank. When it’s running low, stop, recover and restore.

Tell people how brilliant they are
Let your friends, colleagues and equally important your soulmate know what kind of brilliance you see in them, and why it is so special. Let them know that they are ready to be your friend, colleague or soulmate. Watch out for that subtle, probably unconscious negative thoughts; watch out for thinking this will “take” too much time or be too restricting, when the truth is it always has huge, often unexpected returns.

Does brilliance bring you love?
The two main characters, Tillie and Robbie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heart-warming tale of love, lust and psychology, had plenty of love and respect for one another….he thought she was ‘brilliant’ and she adored him and thought that he was the cleverest man she had ever met…..But was this enough? Find out what happened to them; follow these two lovers as Tillie details the highs and lows of life and all that this taught them. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

https://twitter.com/SoulmateNovel

http://www.amazon.com/Soulmate-ebook/dp/B0092GV73W/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1346086973&sr=8-3&keywords=trisha+proud

http://www.trishaproud.com

Love sleep
Rested – Ready to manage your relationship?

When we mention sleep in a relationship the true meaning of sleep is often the last thing on our mind! Apparently it is a little known secret that sleep is critical, not just for beauty rest, but for plenty of health reasons, including ensuring that we have healthy personal relationships.

Take time to reflect
Sadly outside of the space of personal relationships it has become acceptable and even encouraged in business today to ‘stay busy’. When we disrupt our natural sleep cycles in favour of ‘getting more done,’ we actually become less effective. Typically, because we don’t take time to reflect on what is purposeful and important to us, such as our personal relationships, we often find ourselves doing things that are not really relevant to our own aims, goals and desires

Are some of you thinking, ‘what aims, goals and desires?’ There are an awful lot of people our there that have lost sight of what is truly important to them.

To-do lists good or bad?
As a writer I advocate ‘to-do list’ but I don’t advocate becoming addicted to them! For many they have become addicted to ‘to-do’ lists without holding a clear endgame goal in mind. This is energetically inefficient and physically draining. Often there is typically no passion in the relationship and thus it becomes no more than hard work instead of enjoyable. Issues also take much longer to address, when we are not focused.

De-valuing self-nurturance
Also, when the first flush of love and lust has gone from a relationship we tend to de-value self-nurturance, play, and creative relaxing pursuits, many people feel guilty or invalidated by those around them, when they attempt to live with more work vs. life balance.

Be courageous – create space
It takes courage and vision to create space in your life, so that you can stay healthy in spirit, mind and body. It takes courage to listen to your heart above the noise of the many distractions vying for your attention and money. It takes courage to work at building a relationship. And it will take courage and focused attention to slow down in the evening, early enough to get your mind and body prepared to go to sleep at a decent hour. On average, it is aid that we need at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep a night.

What are the benefits of sleep?
1. Improved memory: sleep helps to integrate learning and feelings. Greater focus and concentration improves with a good night’s sleep.

2. Stress reduction: sleep restores the body and mind and helps to balance well-being. When we are too stressed, it may be more difficult to sleep at night and this can become a vicious cycle. When we don’t get enough sleep, it makes it more difficult to deal with stress…..and let’s face it relationships can be stressful.

3. Bodily healing and rejuvenation: sleep reduces inflammation in the body. Chronic inflammation is associated with heart attack, stroke, premature aging, diabetes and arthritis

Don’t be short-sighted
Life is not a sprint, it is a long-distance journey. It is short-sighted to abuse your mind and body, as in the long run. Stress and lack of sleep not only makes you less productive, and less enjoyable to be around, it can accelerate the aging process and even contribute to other diseases. Be wise. Be courageous. Take good care of yourself and expand the vision for your life – with purpose.

Manage your time and relationships better
Sleep is not a luxury; is a means of rejuvenating your mind and body in readiness for the trials and tribulations that all relationships bring. So make sure that you get enough rest and relaxation time in order to be able to tackle any hurdles that you may face; to make your relationship stronger!

Too much lust and not enough sleep
The two main characters, Tillie and Robbie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology, had plenty of love, far too much lust and not enough sleep in their relationship as they worked hard to build their careers. Find out what happened to them; follow these two lovers as Tillie details the highs and lows of life and all that this taught them. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?
https://twitter.com/SoulmateNovel
http://www.amazon.com/Soulmate-ebook/dp/B0092GV73W/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1346086973&sr=8-3&keywords=trisha+proud

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Are you an emotional decision maker?
All of us make decisions – everyday, whether at home, work, just socializing or in our love life. Decisions of the heart; we are always told to make decisions based on fact. They call this informed decision making. But is it the right way to make decisions of the heart? Mastering the art of decision making is indeed a key skill to master.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP tells us that there are primarily four types of people:
• Kinaesthetic
• Visual
• Auditory
• Auditory Visual

The name Neuro-Linguistic Programming was invented in the early 1970’s as an attempt to describe in a succinct manner the scope of this extensive body of insights and skills:
Neuro refers to how the mind and body interact
Linguistic refers to the insights into a person’s thinking that can be obtained by careful attention to their use of language
Programming refers, not to the activity of programming, but to the study of the thinking and behavioural patterns or ‘programmes’ which people use in their daily lives.

Dependant on what NLP category you are likely, (not always) but more often likely to make decisions based on:
• What you feel and sense and can physically touch
• What you can see
• What you can hear
• What details, facts and figures there are to help support your decision

The first two categories have strong ‘emotional needs’. Clearly the latter category makes decisions on less ‘emotion’.

Neuroscience
Although neuroscience has built a strong body of evidence over the years to demonstrate the inextricable link between reason, emotion and decision-making most of mainstream culture is still not on board with it.

There are some that still believe that women, especially, wear the mantle of “emotionality” and that these women still feel the need to compensate by subduing the expression of their feelings and thoughts. This surely cannot be healthy. There is nothing wrong in expressing a touch of emotion.

Although neuroscience has built a strong body of evidence over twenty-five years to demonstrate the inextricable link between reason, emotion and decision-making most of mainstream culture still doesn’t get it.

Reason over emotion
Mainstream thinking about reason over emotion is generally based on two assumptions:
1. That we have a “choice” whether to feel or not
2. That emotional “suppression” works.

Hooray!…
The brain does make decisions based on feeling

Research has found that there can be significant consequences when you try to push away thoughts and feelings; a ‘rebound’ effect. Simply put, these strategies often backfire and result in an increase of the intensity of the thoughts and emotions that are being suppressed.

In the book: “How we decide” by Jonah Lehrer; it the case that rationality depends on emotion. Motivation is driven by feeling, not intellect. Lehrer points out, “Emotion and motivation share the same Latin root, movere, which means to move. The world is full of things and it is our feelings that help us choose among them.”

Avoiding analysis-paralysis
Many of us try to rule out the emotional side of decision-making only to find we become stuck in so-called analysis-paralysis. We often avoid making decisions or make them hastily because we want to skip the feeling part, not only unavoidable, it’s short-sighted.

There continues to be a protracted controversy over reason and intuition, which is another version of the ancient reason over emotion battle. Lehrer makes the critical point that our emotional brains are deeply empirical and that every time you make a mistake or encounter something new, your brain cells are busy changing themselves. Emotions are profoundly smart and constantly learning, they are not simply animal instincts that must be tamed.

Balancing 7 + 2
What is known as the “7 plus or minus 2” rule is based on the research that short-term memory capacity varies from being able to hold between 4 and 9 bits of information at one time. When faced with too many variables, the brain simply makes the wrong decision because its resources are overburdened.

The Chunking Principle:
• Chunking is a principle that applies to the effective communication of information between human beings.
• It is particularly useful in the domain of written communication.
• It was first put forward in the 1950s by George A. Miller.
• Miller studied the short term memory.

In 1952, George A. Miller published a paper titled:
“The Magical Number Seven; Plus or Minus Two”
Today chunking is a term used in NLP to describe the process of grouping items into larger or smaller groups (or “chunks”) Chunking helps you to organise your thinking in order to better handle information and make decisions. So you need to make sure that you can optimize your decision-making process but not taking on too much.

Left and right brains
You have to build capacity in both your left and right brains; in other words the rational and the emotional. They are magically interlinked to ensure that we maximize the understanding of the world around us and the world within ourselves.

Decisions of the heart….
And remember……. Emotions and feelings are not a luxury; they are a means of communicating our states of mind to others. But they are also a way of guiding our own judgments and decisions. Emotions bring the body into the loop of reason. So if you make decisions of the heart, ‘with emotion’ then be sure to give yourself a pat on the back!

Are you making decisions of the heart in your relationship?
The main character Tillie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology, made to when she fell in love with Robbie. She had to decide whether or not he was her “Soulmate. Was Robbie her one true “Soulmate”?……Follow Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to decide who her “Soulmate” really is and all that this taught her. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

https://twitter.com/SoulmateNovel
http://www.amazon.com/Soulmate-ebook/dp/B0092GV73W/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1346086973&sr=8-3&keywords=trisha+proud

knowledge love
How well do you know the people around you….your soulmate…….
It is said…..
– That we are all masters of our own destiny
– That love is blind
– That beauty is only skin deep
Don’t be blinded by your lack of everyday knowledge of them and life; show your true beauty by expanding your knowledge, and by doing so make yourself more interesting…..more attractive!

Knowledge is an acquired quality
How many times in your life have you regretted that you did not know enough, have not read more to show your intelligence and enhance your image and confidence in a conversation or situation with your hearts desire? It happens to the best of us; however how many of us become determined to educate ourselves, to be wittier, better informed, and faster thinking.

Knowledge is an acquired quality – it is not inborn.

You choose
The choice to be educated or not, to be on top of things, is always ours to create and make. Some people make it earlier, some make it later, and sadly some don’t make it at all. Yet, let us be honest about it and admit it, if only to ourselves, there is no better reason for self-content and pride, than the feeling that you can carry on an interesting or important conversation, operate and utilise the facts, understand your soulmate, and stand steadfast on your own.

The beauty of knowledge
Intelligence is a chosen path for those who appreciate the importance and beauty of this personal skill. It becomes a part of who you are, the image you project to the world, an inalienable ingredient of your own self-perception. Obtaining knowledge is a matter of choice and, in fact, a simple thing to acquire, when you have made your decision to acquire it, committed to it and, once commenced, you never abandon the process.

Here are some simple steps to you get started:

Tip 1: Have a relationship ‘vision’ and stay focused
Whatever relationship situation you are in have a ‘vision’ as to what you personally want to achieve from it and equally important stay focussed on that vision. Take in and absorb all the information and process it. Try to analyse it yourself and make your own decisions. When talking on a subject, do not lose the topic; rather, stay on it until you have finished or the discussion is over, or at the very least agreed an outcome. This will help you to consolidate your thoughts and allow your soulmate to come up with any comments or arguments unencumbered.

A focused mind is able to expand and store new information more effectively.

Tip 2: Be mentally active
Have the brightest mind. People like people with bright minds. This is a matter of personal choice, whether you are an avid stamp collector; love reading or are a film buff, train and exercise your brain, every day. Remember the smallest details of a conversation or task and analyse the ideas, complexity and outcomes.

Tip 3: Stimulate your brain
Load your mind with analysis and decision-making even in simple everyday situations. Take an unusual task to resolve, stay on it, and celebrate the results that will follow. The satisfaction you will experience will be very rewarding. Our mind needs a constant challenge to stay on top of the game. The routines we are accustomed to at work do not do the job. Challenge your brain with cross words, puzzles and games, like Sudoku or chess, etc.

Tip 4: Get trained, get a coach or a mentor
There comes a time in everybody’s development when they need support to improve their knowledge. This is perfectly normally and when that time arrives should not be ignored, as this is the time when many people reach their peak and will not develop further without training or the wise advice and support of a coach or mentor. Everybody, not matter what level they are in their world needs a mentor.

If this is you….seek training and support now!

Tip 5: Be your own master – make your own decisions
There is nothing wrong with seeking an advice. But doing it on a regular basis might be damaging for your mind, self-growth, and ability to make your own decisions based on your own analysis. Face the challenge by yourself and only after the decision has been made, bring it to the table for a discussion…… if you want to. Stand by your decision and defend your point of view. Even if you lost and opted for another solution, you have just acquired a priceless experience and your brain has gone through a very good and useful exercise.

Tip 6: Read, read and read
If you are reading this blog then well done! Stay informed on the latest happenings in the world, expand your vocabulary, stimulate your brain with the masterpieces of world literature, enrich your erudition, and put it to use whenever you have an opportunity. Reading good books is a rewarding way to expand your knowledge, boost your intelligence and please your heart and soul. Good books stay with you forever, and once in a while, as you go through life, you return to them. And guess what – it is amazing how your perception changes as you read the old book anew! You know why? Because you have changed, and the ways you perceive and analyse information will have been modified as well.

Positive outcomes
Last but not least. Obtaining greater knowledge helps you enjoy your times with yourself. Consequently, it boosts your self-esteem and you acquire a great new relationship partner …. your improved knowledgeable self. And what can be better than being content with who you are, the way you…….a more intelligent you!

Are you in a intelligent relationship?
The main character Tillie, in the novel “Soulmate”, a heartwarming tale of love, lust and psychology, fell in love with Robbie primarily because of his intelligence…..But was intelligence enough to make their love last………was Robbie her one true “Soulmate”?……Follow Tillie as she details the highs and lows of life, when trying to find her “Soulmate” and all that this taught her. Lessons on intelligence, false flattery, betrayal, injustice, deceit and the hardest lesson of all, the lesson of love; Was Pluto right do we only ever have one “Soulmate”?

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